Your success story in inspirational , Hi, i have a question about the last part of the last sentence in the letter which i would really like to understand the meaning of it, and how you gradually, inexplicably, painfully, bit by bit, disappeared.. (Ignoring would be better), but you have to hold fast to what you know is right. We could only dine at restaurants he went to with her family. Narcissists live in denial of who they really are. The borderline traits answers a lot of questions for me. Now I know he was never really sorry. When I went back to school and finished my degree and when I began teaching a class at church that the pastor wouldnt allow him to teach all hell broke loose. They want it all, at all costs, so they slowly & painfully strip it all from us, they take everything we have, even our energy Unfriend & unfollw him on all social media. Now, he is not used to not having control. It was self d fense. The high you get with them is fantastic. For the life of me, I cant figure it out. In simple, the narcissist creates a belief in you (even without your knowledge) that you are unsuitable for any relationship. {{HUGS}}, I have been with a narc or sociopath, I am still learning the subtlety of personality disorders. | Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed, https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0CCIQ0kMoADAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.suicidepreventionlifeline.org%2F&ei=irtgVfLuEcqayASNhYHgCg&usg=AFQjCNE4Hv6RcsQlZUZgKuDddDBWMWUwvw&sig2=0EH5yuP0YMqLmaEdMf7V6w&bvm=bv.93990622,d.aWw, http://letmereach.com/2014/10/06/why-do-i-feel-so-attached-to-my-narcissistic-ex/, The Narcissist, the Ex, and the New Girlfriend The Art of Triangulation | Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed, The REAL Reason the Narcissist Comes Back After No Contact | freefromnarcissisticabuse, Vanilla Sky Unreality with the Narcissist | Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed, FAQ Friday 5 Common Questions About the Common Narcissist | Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed. There is a hidden message in everything they say. I could not understand why/how he would use the detriment of our relationship to secure another. Of course she was wrong, again. You have to think about what you will get out of being friends. Most of his are either a request unrelated to parenting (which I ignore) or replies to me with another question [is that all you wanted?, are you saying that ()?] when I expected a yes or no and he hates that I dont reply. -Highly romantic in words; cannot walk the talk They get tired of it and i lost my best friend because of this. I seriously dont have any reason to hope my family or friends will return. Hes like you wont fight? The next step is restraining order. Pictures of them in her bed and how much of a man he was between the sheets. Lastly, I do guided meditations a LOT. Could the police involvement push him over the edge? I have cut contact from him again (following several arguments culminating in him threatening to contact the police because I apparently disrespected him); but it has been getting difficult to keep the ties cut, but this article has motivated me to stay away from his damaging behaviours and to have more respect for myself. Sad to hear so many people get dammaged from such sick people. I spoke to him by email and regretted it. Two weeks later, the ex began calling & texting for the next three weeks, several times a week. She just could never specifically mention what she was apologizing for. Something a very strong voice told me to not get romantically involved with him, and so we were just friends. She often would talk me up and compliment me more than usual after we would reconnect following a period of no contact as if it were her way of apologizing. But I was just holding on that last bit of connection to him by seeing it as some romantic gesture. I cant take his shit anymore and Im tired of feeling violated and sick with anxiety anytime he calls or texts. I just sort of got used to listening to how wonderful she was, how everybody loved her, how all men wanted her. It basically goes against the reason they chose you in the first place. However, he did do the character assassination and tried to make me look like the crazy one. well, i guess i still have a lot to learn! I was hysterical and I called the police so they could help me get my belongings. I just unearthed his hand written letters from when we first started dating in college. When her dad met someone else she turned out to be the evil step mum to the point where shed stub out cigarettes on her. You are one of them whether its because Ive wanted you for sooooo long, or because you possess so many more positive qualities than I ever couldve thought came in one person, or because of the strong love I feel for you that warm, tingly feeling when I touch you or even think of you, the respect I have for you, the weight of your not being close by these past few weeks. I no longer care if hes thinking of me or not as I am moving on and doing so quickly. I miss my son so badly. If you had started dating him again it would not have been long before he would have discarded you again. My ex too started telling people I am a Narc after me telling him he has Narc tendencies and showed him information on Narcs. If some of my friends and colleagues were in the mental health profession, then why was my disorder not detected? I really dont want to.. Its like tempation. I feel so much more calm and serene with him out of my life. Can anyone give me some answers as to why he is so interested in contact if he is so happy and moved on. Therspist didnt mention anything about narcissism but one Christmas eve my ex narc left mw stranded. Everything was great in the beginning, almost too good to be true (I should have noticed the red flags then!). Still, the deeds were the deeds. I think too many people take this dont demonize the other parent bit too far. I think that hit a nerve. 2. He will never let me talk badly about myself ie if I say something about my part in our break up. Sometimes I get sad out of nowhere, sometimes I get pissed. You dont want to touch that and those diseases. He is so predictable. []. It can only be described as a LIVING NIGHTMARE. I cannot describe the way he wrote me, how he behaved, all those words to make me feel so small. There is also pure NPD. This explains why they shift into turbo gear when you implement No Contact. After going through the stages of a breakup, an ex will reconsider their decision- once they don't feel certain about the breakup. Thats the tough part. There is Always some way to give a sign of living. I view them as keeping me away from productive things. Ive posted it here before but I think it warrants repeating. We separated for 7 months and he befriended a woman I later found out he was spending tiime with her at her home. Im sure the new girl has questioned him about this and of course they can spin it to look like you were the b-tch all along or that you are jealous of his new love but one day she will see the truth and my guess is she has already and will be adding 2 and 2. Natural Remedies for Bipolar or Borderline Personality Disorder. One man got more then the RO, btw also for her sleeping with their (his and hers) boss. My point is for me six months silence and those kinds of insults mean you must despise me and want nothing to do with me because you think Im such a horrible individual. Kim, Ive been reading your emails and writings for about a year. I am so angry with him but dissapointed in myself! He withheld his banking information from me, but needed access to mine. Sometimes I feel really light when I remember I am free from all the bullshit. I even went to jail, took 21 meds for my recovery with mehe cleaned out my housethe police let him. Just curious to get your thoughts on this. But i wanted him back . He texted saying he was glad he got to see me and for the most part enjoyed his time. My genuine hope and prayer is that you continue to truly receive it, and be set free from the anger, resentment and bitterness. But i wont bite the apple again. Im starting to wonder if maybe a conversation needs to be had to either reaffirm my decision, give him an opportunity to show his humanity, I dont know. He is bi sexual. I told him he had to go. My telling him I was onto him did the trick. Just sending you my hugs and hope that things will get better. I directed a question, specifically to HER, and she couldnt even answer completely before he jumped in with HIS opinion. Then he texted me that he hoped for me to Find finally the love of my life because he has found that one. Try to get that support reduced and try to ruin you. I have blocked him from all my social media profiles but Im extremely wary as to what he is saying to people in general but more specifically to people in my industry. Actually THE NEXT DAY (imagine what he felt), and the community too. On the night i realized i had been duped, deceived and manipulated for years, i had discovered pornography in his gym bagsubsequent to this raw finding, i had wondered why he spent so many hours in the gym? She cant hold down a job event though she is amazing at what she does and always gets great pay but has never once saved any. Why should she just come and go when she feels like it and I have all the responsibility ? We broke up 9 months ago and it has taken this long to get him out of my system to the point where I can have a normal life. 2. I like feel alone at that time. Years in the making, this book creates a bridge between the. His friends still works their, so he could have asked them to call. It allows me to have the power to NOT RESPOND to my ex after more then a year who has been texting and calling for the past few weeks. I need help connecting my head to my heart. In a futile attempt to get closure, I engaged with my ex-narcissist. She may return days, weeks, months or years later, depending on her needs. He is over committef financially, yet says him and the new girl are thinking of renting a house together. Yeah rightI asked him the night he walked out what he wanted to do with that freezer and he told me to keep it. Indifference is all I can muster now, and that beats anger, resentment and sadness any day. It has not at all been my intention to hurt you in any way, and I really do want the best for you. Not because it is an old school to apply the psychodynamic approach (cous/uncons) to Narcs and Psycos,who cares about the fashion? Omg, we must be the same person because Im mean, Im so mean to him, I treat him like a dog, and I also needed to grow up, this is real life ..not a game he tells me. He attempted a hoover January 2020. Just have an adult conversation and end things maturely. Acting as if we are barely acquaintances. Sorry to say you have to change this choice change locks move his stuff out which can be dangerous for you (dont put anything past these Ns). []. Hopeless romantic, he would light candles and have music playing. He said he was enlightened by some of my comments (I told him he was turning into a dirty old man, a pervert-he didnt like that mirror at all) and still loved me wants to stay together. He is lying to her about his finances and tells her I am trying to turn the kids against him, which could not be further from the truth. The only so-called friends Narcs have are the ones in their social circle that they want to impress, but those are very shallow relationships. All Very Shocking & Very Sad I see signs that I never would have recognized before my own experience. It is sooo very difficult to stay stuck on the NO CONTACT button. Narcs will ALWAYS hang themselves when you give them enough rope. Finally Cameron is back with Kym she took him back in the last week. He told me we are never ever getting back together, I said yes I know, that is why I asked you to leave. Funny, I have been wondering the same as Samantha Three months after divorce (18 months ago), N-ex bought a house down the street from me, to make it easy for our children to go back and forth between house (now we can all be friends, right?). I found it odd because 1) We haven't talked 2) He doesn't follow me on Insta, so he deliberately has to go to my profile just to see the Story. Second, psychologically, there is a constant tension inside us due to desiring someone who causes us such pain and yet periodically comes back to rescue us from it. No one mention Narissism. And its true what they say about NC. He was trying to destroy me, and I fought back. Al those weekends he never answerd my tons of textings never. I always felt ashamed when we went out because theyd just throw on anything.. Sent back a nasty email. Another one triangulated me etc. In fact, your ex would probably be annoyed and even angry at you. The peak end rule. Even if she wanted to talk to me, I doubt she would since she owes me so much money. But we often continue eating it, anyway. Thank you. let them back in in anyway and you will find yourself back at Day One, curled up in a fetal position. One of the main reasons that an ex hasn't tried to contact you is because they're dealing with their feelings. This methodology behavioral, is used in many scientific fields, mine for ex. We can actually crave contact with them. 3. Recovery from this type of abuse literally takes a villageas well as dedication and consistency. Lets cut it and make 4-5%. Started sending me love songs. What I now feel is like my whole sense of self has been suddenly truncated I am feeling a confusing mix of things affronted by the ease with this seeming resolution full of anger at how its affected me not to say the ambiguities I face relinking to the group as a whole I sent a contribution into the forum where they all are the other day a simple comment about something normal just like before exactly what I have missed so much some replied some talked about other stuff others started other threads it was like looking in on a room full of people chatting being excluded from that room for what is 18 months and now being able to walk in and talk like nothing has happened has made me really sad inside for the meaninglessness of it all how hard it is when this is used as a weapon manipulating and controlling a persons connectedness is a powerful and painful weapon it really hurts, none of the stress depression anxiety simply goes up in smoke I am mindful too that dealing with those things is now made more difficult given the blurring of the framework that formed them those feelings have been orphaned in a way, left out on their own, I think a big risk now for me is that I bury them try to move on without addressing them, if I was to say what I am full of at this moment it is confused anger, I did not reconnect so much as simply accept his offer of a fresh start in the sense that it was simply an idea I dont have to and dont see this person in my life the offer and its manifestation in my life was fully abstract, What happened was strange though and I am not sure I fully understand it but after he offered this fresh start and I got over the surprise and the sense that it was unexpected after he reconnected me to all the online forums that I had been banned from my sense of connection to the sport we had shared simply evaporated, It was as if in the years while there was abuse that that in itself became the thing that defined my connection to hang gliding in those years 2013/2014 my mind was fully preoccupied with the affront of having been ostracised running endlessly over how and why over how all the others seemed to simply accept it however they may have sympathised with me on a one on one level, I had initially thought I would just slowly pick up where I left off but its not working that way its almost as if I have been dumped in a way that the narcissist finally tired of the abuse and turned round and walked off the energy of the abusive link has gone and with it my link to flying flying I had had to step back from because of a need for No Contact. Every single action employed by the narcissist stems from a pathological need to control others. . He is no friend of mine! He wouldnt say it, I would just read that because that is what hes saying. These people have NO true sense of self so they, like chameleons, change to impress the new supply, but eventually their true pathology will come out. Some nerve speaking to ur children tho. I'm not going to contact them first, they'll have to contact me first. When I say Im in love with you, I mean Im in love with being your sun, monopolizing your orbit, being your gravity, keeping you drawn back to me no matter how hard you try to jump or fly, keeping you down. This is a terrible blow to the narcissists self-esteem, and it will activatenarcissistic rage. A sad reality but true and admitting what i have become is important to me. Narcissists act (or refrain from acting) based solely on the availability of Narcissistic Supply (or lack thereof). So, you know better about your situation. Your articles give me the strength to keep going. Still hasn't happened. They love the attention whether bad or good. I researched NPD and sure enough- totally described my husband. So how do you explain to the ones that you love that they the have no future because of a mental disorder starting grade one that was not recognised until a year ago? Wow. Prior to discovery after fights, he would seem truly remorseful and we wouldnt split up. Yes loyalty is NOT their strong suit thats for sure. Thank-you for your kind words. As soon as I read, he treated me like a queen when he wasnt a crazy maker the BPD read signalled in my brain. Think about that before you break NC. He gives me a glimpse of the man I fell in love with. for me, it now has taken on a hollow feeling, he is doing it but only because he doesnt want his charade to end and everyone find out about his true persona as well as not have to split assets with me (cheaper to keep her) and I think he is a coward -wants out but just cant be the bad guy: NEWS FLASH HUSBAND-YOU ARE THE BAD GUY! So the outcome would have been the same either way. Thats why EVERYONE gets a bottle of No Contact at the door. I didnt respond; I wanted to throw up! Why torture yourself reading her posts and seeing photos of her with this other guy. So, Im fairly certain hes done with me. Am I bounding myself too much? The Narcissist will make their partner feel incredible, and have answers to seemingly everything. As soon as you know what they are, they disappear because they know you cant be duped any longer by him. I cant imagine being married to him. I dont mean that. I exhibited classic behaviour traits of the disorder, such as high ergo, irrational thoughts, anger at some issues, believing I was competitive while it relay was insecurity, believing that I was correct which was wrong c, poor listening skills, went from one unfinished project to another, disregard for some of the rules, poorly designed projects, stealing even if I did not want the object, was a hoarder, addictions to food and went from one research group to another when a project needed skills (opportunity to myself). Right now Im 5 years out and we talk occasionally. Im so glad the article was helpful to you, and hope youre still NC and moving towards a happier life <3. And every time I think to myself a real narcissist would never apologizewould never admit his frailty. But once I pick him upremind him of his valuetell him I believe in him and see his strengthits only a matter of days or weeks before he finds a reason to fight and the silent treatment begins. You deserve a loving relationship with a man who will love and cherish you for the beautiful person that you are, and I believe you will receive that in His time. Take time to calm yourself down: Go for a walk or do some exercise. Thought of ruining and losing my family and friends, makes me strongly to desire to change my behaviour. a narcissist. Why was he not discarded as quick as me? Message received, zero distortion. I just filed for divorce after 22 months of no contact because though He discarded me, he will NEVER file. I dont want to have this baby alone. 2 reasons; one is the corporation thing, another they constitute 9% of the population (the whole Cluster B in DSM is a psychopathic cluster). We where too close and i was ok with that. Once the child pulls away, be prepared for the father to respond in ways that cause the child extreme pain. It was insanely deep how she made others perceive me. Another great one! Everything Ive read, everything I know tells me this isnt what I really want but I feel so broken and worthless. You think you are completely over them but letting them in too soon gives them the opening to triangulate, manipulate and mind phuck. Answer (1 of 40): 1. To her I am just a needy ex which I am sure she is telling all her friends and family. 10 Reasons Why Girls Want To Stay Friends After a Breakup, 8 Subtle Ways Guys Hint They Like You Without Saying It, 22 Painful Signs Hes Not Into You (Anymore). I am struggling. Often my thoughts and actions at home and work do not make sense now; and some are illegal, unethical, and stupid. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Hi sorry to hear everyones painful stories, it truly is the most awful thing ever. HiHe is still on your mind that much, you really need to go no Contact, he is playing games but your allowing it. Best of luck to you!! So now he have his Controle back. It was sweet but I couldnt let what he did go addressed, so I politely outlined how I was hurt and lovingly explained what I thought his issues were. Accepting him as a friend too soon confused me about my new relationship and caused me angst. Ive done tons of research and believe him to be a Covert Narcissist, which is a little more complicated, because he believes his own hype. A part of me is disgusted by him, and a part of me is fascinated by the mirroring and gas lighting. You just cant have a Logical Conversation with nor Reason with a toddler. Should I be on my guard. If you are like me, we are natural protectors and want the very best for the woman in our lives. Feeling rejected, (we all know how they hate that) he sent me a nasty email. Next time you have the urge to reach out, its probably a good idea to write him an email or hand-written letter, but then dont send it. I have a hard head and have struggled for years. -Overall disinterest in partners family and/or friends Although they are the true monster behind the scenes , I can't help think they are real. 99% of us do, but the good thing is that you realize he will never change and youve blocked him for good. What do you think? Borderline is distinct from Narcissism. I just didnt like the way he seemed to be larger than life. You can put a stop to that by ceasing engagement. Yes, not all of them are equally sadistic, but only garden Narc is a neurotic type (neurotic means people, who can empathise). I also asked him to take my photos down of me on his facebook page and he said NO, why feel the need to keep them up?? Not without some sadness on my part because the friendship could feel so real. But, most 17-yr olds I know are bent on learning their own lessons. When would be a good time to come by to get the cable box and belongings? Like were best friends and no time is a good time in my book. Everything Kim wrote above fits my ex narcissist girl friend to a T. So Briana, don't feel it's the nature of men. That he didnt mean to hurt me, never wants to see me hurt..but no apology. Why you put up with it all. Hi CJ, he sounds like a Narc I dated a few years ago. Reading Suggestion: How Do Narcissists End Relationships? Domestic violence unit contacted me the next day and said that they believed me and told me to get an emergency protection order and he feels my ex is more passive aggressive and gets off on reactions, that he would manipulate from the outside. He took on my other three kids from previous marriage. A classic strategy narcissists use to keep their victims under control is belittling them. It has been five months since I last spoke with her, four months since I received a text, and three months since she blocked me from facebook. After a nice, balanced visit to his city for a few days, I returned home to relate to a very different person. First thougt no dont believe it.. THERE IS NOTHING THEY DONT KNOW EXACTLY ABOUT WHAT THEY ARE DOING AND WHY, NO UNCONSCIOUS!!! As to the rest of them, with higher or lesser degree of sadism, seeing the Narc actions, as a result of unconscious is exactly what gets/keeps people in trouble. We also heal in pretty much the same way, at first. I can switch off. Like its been said before in cases like mine, wouldnt of stayed this long if it had been overtly abusive but there was a fair amount of good and before my discovery he could fool me with his emotions which seemed real. Reclaim your inner power, disarm the narcissist, and finally stay congruent with your wish for a healed life! He worked on me till he boke me . 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