Im Canadian, so perhaps this is another cultural difference AAM has uncovered for me. If you have a sniffling toddler, youll definitely want to check that a blueberry or a bead didnt magically make its way up a nostril. On me, personally, alcohol-based eau de parfume scents last way longer and have a lot more throw than my oils do. And while you'd just love to tell them to. Yes. Does anyone have answer. Its one thing to ask a coworker to stop wearing a strongly smelling perfume, its another to suggest that people need to switch out ALL of their personal care products to accommodate a coworker! If I manage to get a load of casual-time-only clothes put together (instead of mixed work and casual), I might throw in a little bit. Pause for a moment, look the colleague in the eye, and ask him in a calm and professional voice to repeat what he said. I cant hear what my sons saying if hes sitting next to me but facing the other direction, but cant not hear him eating popcorn from the other room. I think its like color blindness, there must be a receptor that some people have that make them aware of something in the patchouli/patchouli type scents and the wearers arent actually able to detect the same scents. Copyright 2023 Leaf Group Ltd. / Leaf Group Media, All Rights Reserved. ! the coworker is trying to make some kind of mean-spirited point. Even if she still can smell something on you that youre not noticing, shes not bringing it up in a productive way at all exaggerated sniffing and snarky comments are not helping anything! It can linger for a really long time and washing with unscented detergent may not do the trick. I will also say, as someone who is very sensitive to smells, that if the scent bothers the coworker it would probably only take a trace amount for her to smell it, although shes handling it like a jerk. If this coworker is so sensitive to scent that those everyday, likely-impossible-to-avoid things are enough to cause problems, then she needs accommodations beyond just asking coworkers to not wear perfume. It used to be a magical odor-disappearing spray! Stop using the lemon-scented body wash for a few days and see if she keeps making the comments. It's best left up to the manager. This might be a long shot, particularly since it really just seems like your coworker is being a jerk. Time. Learn about the causes of chronic congestion, postnasal drip and constant sniffling and how to treat it. Decrease the authority you have in the workplace, over a team or within a project group. OP has done put in a ton of effort to alleviate the smell. Almost everyone I know who wears that kind of scent is white, and I really hope that OP is, too. I don't have an obstruction, so I am not really sniffing up snot or mucus. However, genuine allergic reactions arent necessarily going to manifest in front of their sourceits not all doubling over in the moment. Is it my body? Ive always had it and its bananas impossible to explain to anyone without coming off as a jerk when Id suddenly fume or snap a pencil under the table or run away from the dinner table. Policy. The reason to ask someone who doesnt live with you is that we can stop smelling things after a while, so a partner or roommate might not be able to smell it either. Instead they want to continue chatting or working. I was mortified when it happened. Your co-worker sounds like shes being a bit difficult and imposing unrealistic expectations on the OP. (Ive had a lot of practice). I would still never buy it or order it in a bar, however. Lets see if we can narrow down where/what it is.. Yeah, I was wondering if OP burns incense or something like an essential oil diffuser at home and it sticks to the clothing even after theyre washed. My wife gave up chewing gum around me years ago, before I realized I was the one with the problem. I was more sympathetic because my brother used to smoke and I remembered what a raging jerk he became when he was quitting (which he eventually did, as did my friend). It can provide an. I arrived at an Airbnb on a recent trip and the ENTIRE PLACE absolutely reeked of Glade. Youre talking about general, being-in-the-world sounds and scents. No one likes the idea of others wondering if they shower properly. On the plus side, I did learn how to ask for anti-histimine cream and tablets in Spanish. Another thought that just occurred to me is a cloth car seat, so maybe while the clothing items were washed, perhaps its being transferred from other places. yeah, Ive always associated with stoner culture more than hippies or POC to be honest. I have this problem too. She refuses to move. If this were me, I would tell coworker Ive done what I can and she can take it to the boss or HR if she feels more should be done. At some point, you gotta be able to cope. I was a dingaling. :D. I was wondering the same thing- Im sure LW isnt the only person in that office who uses scented products. Morning all. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. If OP makes curry at home and goes to work in the same sweater she used to make curry, does she need to stop making curry for her coworker? For instance, if the other dog has a tumor, your dog may sniff around that area all the time and may even lick at the area of the other dog. I actually find the smell of patchouli very pleasant, but I do recognize that a lot of people have negative associations with it. She walked in the room with socks and shoes on and immediately my eyes were watering, my head ached, instantly nauseous. If so, that means that in the co-workers mind, the OP is trying to get away with wearing stuff that shes promised to stop wearing, which would explain her being shirty about it. I agree. yup, havent eaten bananas since I was about 5. At this point you have done plenty to make her life easier, and she is being rude. This women used lemon scented Clorox wipes. Which is a good thing to have anyway. I was thinking something similar it could be an issue developing with the coworker that they dont even realize is happening yet. When everything is researched and it ends up being something other than you, shell have to quit harassing you. 10% off Management Today's Leadership Learning programme. Also, while I typically have (mild) allergic reactions to fragrances, sometimes non-scented products have ingredients that Im sensitive to. 1. Im guessing no, otherwise the coworker would have an office reputation for being sensitive. Even if there is some light scent hanging around (due to her conditioner or whatever) thats pretty normal. She sounds truly awful. They can talk about accommodations if Coworker turns out to be legitimately extra sensitive, but none of that is OPs business. I know were not supposed to criticize OPs, but come on. Ive never complained, as I realized theres not much he can do to change it, so I resorted to using some (in my opinion) very mildly scented body lotion on my neck before I come in to work so I can smell that instead of him. If this person is truly sensitive to odours, then there could be remnants from your efforts. I think this is an important point too. Agreed. Instead, offer practical solutions that can fix the solution for everyone. I think it becomes a way to get attention, vent frustration, or just ensure that others are as miserable as the complainer. You want it to stop. should I tell the truth in my exit interview? I just read your post describing your boyfriend's sniffling and was thinking that could be me writing that post. Never disregard the medical advice of your physician or health professional, or delay in seeking such advice, because of something you read on this Site. Most people are more than willing to do reasonable things for their coworkers comfort, but it sounds like the OPs coworker is the type thats totally unreasonable. Here's how to tell if one or more of your coworkers are toxic: 1. Curiously enough, the first symptom I get is irritability, and my fight or flight response kicks in. I stopped wearing it to work when you asked me to. or just Nope, not me. and then either ignore the co-worker or go on talking about the TPS reports or whatever. She is rude. This is on her coworker to figure out now, with the help of the company. Im just glad this is a common enough problem that most hotels use unscented products to wash their linens or Id have to travel with a sleeping bag. Id be willing to use a different scent on works days if one really bothered someone, but not to give it up completely. Id ask the co-worker to describe the smell and when she smells it. One of the easiest ways to make someone squirm is to imply that they stink. No one wants to be the smelly guy in the office. It seems like some people in an office environment get a pet Thing To Complain About and lose track of either the importance or the existence of the Thing, sometimes both. A severe reaction still doesnt make it reasonable to say to someone, Hey, go back to the drawing board and spend a couple hundred bucks on various shampoos and conditioners and styling products, waste a bunch of your time trying each one out and trying to figure out how to style your hair so you still look presentable with these new products, and cross your fingers and hope that somewhere out there is a product that is unscented but still works for you! Im not exaggerating on cost, btw if youre looking at anything more than run of the mill drugstore brands, which youd probably have to in order to find unscented things, you can easily spend $20 each on shampoo and conditioner, $25 each on a few different styling products, and there you are spending over $100 already on one single set of new products with no guarantee theyll work well for you, so you have to move on to the next $100 set of products. No. As someone who is very sensitive to scents, I just wanted to say to the LW how NICE it is that you put in so much effort to be un-scented! Middle ear pressure and nasopharyngeal pressure were simultaneously measured during forceful sniffing. I have some sympathy for people with asthma, etc, but I have to admit not as much as others on the board. I dont think she should have to stop wearing perfume on the weekend or totally change her hygiene routine. Im sensitive to even small amounts. Norovirus and egg drop soup, which is a crying shame because I used to love it, and until that experience it was my go-to soup when I was sick (cheap, easy take out, semi-nutritious). I suppose its possible but we have zero information from the letter to indicate race. Idk why but he always sniffs. The only thing I can think of is that it was not washed as much as the other clothed. (Again, I am not wearing ANY perfume, my deodorant is unscented, I shower every morning and my body wash is lightly lemon scented and doesnt stick around.) Does anything in your home smell like patchouli? The co-worker in this situation is absolutely going about things unprofessionally, but as someone with scent sensitivity, I can sympathize. At Thanksgiving, people give me a look when I say I dont like turkey very much. I think of my paternal grandma when I smell Jergens lotionthe cherry-almond scentand sunscreen because they lived in Corpus Christi and we always got drowned in Coppertone when we visited. 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